I often recommend the books below to deepen understanding of the problem you are dealing with. Below is a list of the books that I am currently recommending, and perhaps you will find them useful too.
personal growth
- Living Like You Mean It,Ronald Fredrick, Ph.D
- The Gifts of Imperfection,Brene Brown, Ph.D
- Mindsight,Daniel Siegel, MD
- Self-Compassion: The Proven Power of Being Kind to Yourself,Kristin Neff, Ph.D
- It's Not Always Depression, Hilary Jacobs Hendel, LCSW
Marital/Couple Issues
- Hold Me Tight: Seven Conversations for a Lifetime of Love
by Susan Johnson, Ph.D
- Love Sense: The Revolutionary New Science of Romantic Relationships
by Susan Johnson, Ph.D
- An Emotionally Focused Workbook for Couples: The Two of Us
by Veronica Kallos-Lilly and Jennifer Fitzgerald
- Emotional Safety: Viewing Couples Through the Lens of Affect
by Don R. Catherall
- The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work: A Practical Guide from the Country's Foremost Relationship Expert
by John Gottman, Ph.D
- 10 Lessons to Transform Your Marriage by
John Gottman, Ph.D
- What Makes Love Last: How to Build Trust and Avoid Betrayal
by John Gottman, Ph.D
- Reconcilable Differences: Rebuild Your Relationship by Rediscovering the Partner You Love—without Losing Yourself
by Andrew Christensen, Ph.D, Brian D. Doss, Ph.D, and Neil S Jacobson, Ph.D
- Attached: The New Science of Adult Attachment and How it Can Help You Find—and Keep—Love
by Amir Levine and Rachel Heller
- Insecure in Love, Leslie Becker-Phelps, Ph.D
- Why Won’t You Apologize?, Harriet Lerner, Ph.D
- Stop the Fight!, Michelle Brody
- How Not to Hate Your Husband After Kids, Jancee Dunn
- Loving Like you Mean It, Rod Frederick, PhD
Sexual Issues
- Don’t Call It Love: Recovery from Sexual Addiction by Patrick Carnes, Ph.D
- Out of the Shadow: Understanding Sexual Addiction by Patrick Carnes, Ph.D
- Facing the Shadow: Starting Sexual and Relationship Recovery by Patrick Carnes, Ph.D
- The Porn Trap: The Essential Guide to Overcoming Problems Caused by Pornography by Wendy Maltz, L.C.S.W. and Larry Maltz, L.C.S.W.
- Lust, Anger, Love: Understanding Sexual Addiction and the Road to Healthy Intimacy by Maureen Canning, LMFT
- Breaking the Cycle: Free Yourself from Sex Addiction, Porn Obsession, and Shame by George N. Collins, MA and Andrew Adleman, MA
- Thirty Days to Hope and Freedom from Sexual Addiction: The Essential Guide to Beginning Recovery and Preventing Relapse by Milton S. Magness, D.Min.
- Recovery Zone, Volume 1: Making Changes That Last: The Internal Tasks by Patrick Carnes, Ph.D
- Love Addict: Sex, Romance, and Other Dangerous Drugs by Ethlie Ann Vare
- Coping with Erectile Dysfunction, Barry McCarthy, Ph.D
- From the Living Room to the Bedroom, Drs. Bill and Ginger Bercaw
- Come As You Are, Emily Nagoski, Ph.D
- Enhancing Couple Sexuality, Barry McCarthy, PhD and Emily McCarthy
- The Sexual Healing Journey, Wendy Maltz
Infidelity, Betrayals, and Forgiveness
- After the Affair- Janis Abrams Spring
- Forgiving the Unforgivable- Beverly Flanigan, M.S.S.W.
- How Can I Forgive You?- Janis Abrams Spring
- Not "Just Friends" Rebuilding Trust and Restoring Your Sanity After Infidelity-Shirley Glass, Ph.D.
- Getting Past the Affair: A Program to Help You Cope, Heal, and Move On- Together or Apart-Douglas K. Snyder, Ph.D., Donald Baucom, Ph.D. Kristina Coop Gordon, Ph.D.
- I Love You But I Don't Trust You: The Complete Guide to Restoring Trust in Your Relationship-Mira Kirshenbaum
- Intimacy After Infidelity: How to Rebuild and Affair-Proof Your Marriage-Steven Solomon, Ph.D. and Lorie Teagno, Ph.D.
- When Good People Have Affairs: Inside the Hearts and Minds of People in Two Relationships- Mira Kirshenbaum
- The Science of Trust, John Gottman, Ph.D
- Moving Beyond Betrayal, Vicki Tidwell Palmer, LCSW
- Love You, Hate the Porn, Mark Chamberlain, PhD and Geoff Steurer, MS
- Mending A Shattered Heart, Stephanie Carnes, PhD
- Deceived: Facing Sexual Betrayal, Lies, and Secrets, Claudia Black, PhD
Love Addiction
- Love Addict: Sex, Romance, and Other Dangerous Drugs by Ethlie Ann Vare
- Facing Love Addiction by Pia Melody, Andrea Wells Miller, and J. Keith Miller
- Addiction to Love by Susan Peabody
- Obsessive Love by Susan Forward, Ph.D and Craig Buck
Living with Autism Spectrum Disorderand Asperger Syndrome
- Journal of Best Practices by David Finch
- Life with a Partner or Spouse with Asperger Syndrome: Going Over the Edge? by Kathy Marshack, Ph.D
- Executive Functions: What They Are, How They Work, and Why They Evolved by Russell A. Barkley
- Asperger’s and Adulthood, Blythe Grossberg, Psy.D
- Overcoming Anxiety and Depression on the Autism Spectrum, Lee A Wilkinson, Ph.D
- Living Well on the Spectrum, Valerie Gaus, Ph.D
Breaking Up
- Too Good to Leave, Too Bad to Stay by Mira Kirshenbaum
- How to Break Your Addiction to a Person by Howard Halpern
- Getting Past Your Breakup by Susan J. Elliott
- Should I Try to Work it Out?, Alan Howkins, PhD, Tamara Fackrell, Ph.D, Steven Harris, Ph.D
- How to Talk to your Kids About Your Divorce, Samantha Rodman, Ph.D
Anxiety Worry and Fear
- The Worrier’s Guide to Overcoming Procrastination by Pamela Wiegartz, Ph.D and Kevin Gyoerkoe, Psy.D.
- Dying of Embarrassment by Barbara Markway, Ph.D C., Alec Pollard, Ph.D., and others
- The Shyness and Social Anxiety Workbook by Mark Antony, Ph.D and Richard Swinson, Ph.D
- The Mindfulness and Acceptance Workbook for Anxiety by John Forsyth, Ph.D and Georg Eifert, Ph.D
- Women Who Worry Too Much by Holley Hazlett-Stevens, Ph.D
- The Worry Trap by Chad Lejeune, Ph.D
- Stop Obsessing: How to Overcome Your Obsessions and Compulsions by Edna B. Foa, Ph.D and Reid Wilson, Ph.D
Depression and Grief
- I Don’t Want to Talk About It: Overcoming the Secret Legacy of Male Depression by Terence Real
- Depressed & Anxious by Thomas Marra, Ph.D
- Transforming Traumatic Grief: Six Steps to Move from Grief to Peace After the Sudden or Violent Death of a Loved One by Courtney Armstrong, LPC
Shame and Guilt
- Shame and Guilt by Ernest Kurtz
- The Secret Message of Shame: Pathways to Hope and Healing by Patricia Potter-Efron, MS and Ronald Potter-Efron, MSW, Ph.D
- I Thought It Was Just Me (but It Isn’t) by Brene Brown, Ph.D
- Shame: The Exposed Self by Michael Lewis
- Shame and Guilt by June Price Tagney and Ronda Dearing
